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The Listening Workshop June 28

I’ve been to this. It’s awesome.

Put a space between stimulus and response
come to the:

THE LISTENING WORKSHOP

Saturday June 28th
Time: 9:00 AM –1:00 PM
Cost: FREE
Location: Ithaca Community Childcare Center (IC3) 579 Warren Road Ithaca,NY 14850
Directions: Turn East off Rt 13 onto Warren Road. Go .4 mile to IC3. It is on the left,just past the light (between Cayuga Medical Center and BOCES)

Please Bring your own beverage or snacks

Please be 10 minutes early. We will be starting promptly at 9:00am.

Please register by emailing your name and the number of people attending tothelisteningworkshop@gmail.com
For those that choose to attend please read on:

Here is our promise: You will walk away from Saturday’s workshop with a life altering skill that if practiced and applied, will shorten the time between conflict and resolution,build intimacy and enhance performance and productivity in all areas of your life. Yes we know that is a bold promise. Please note where it says: “if practiced and applied,” this skill is very simple and it is not easy.

Please be 10-15 minutes early so you have plenty of time to get a chair,sign-in, get a name tag. We are going to start promptly at 9,so we can be done promptly at 1!

During the coming weeks :
Take note of the things in your life that you are dealing with, or you really care about and the typical conversations in your life and how they normally go.

Links: Native landscaping, listening, governments, fracking

Do you know how to listen?

I attended a free listening workshop here in Ithaca in 2011 that was really amazing. I went after I’d already been in Ithaca’s Talking Circles on Race and Racism — which are so wonderful, but so dependent on good communication. I really think I could have been a better listener (and a better white ally) if I’d attended the Listening Workshop before the Talking Circles!

The main idea is that usually, people aren’t really, truly listening to each other. They’re kind of waiting so they can speak. For instance, when someone says something about oppression, the other person isn’t necessarily listening with an open heart, ready to hear every painful detail — they’re usually going through a whole list of automatic, unhelpful responses (agreeing or disagreeing, questioning, giving advice, problem solving, thinking of a similar experience, coming up with reasons or explanations, etc. — there’s a list on our refrigerator!). The result is that we don’t actually hear what the other is saying. It takes awareness and practice to move away from these automatic responses, but I’ve got to say that it is well worth the effort. It really changed the way I communicate with people, for the better.

Think about what widespread adoption of this approach to communication could do for our world. Learning to be better listeners can only help our struggles for social and environmental justice. When someone speaks of their experience of racism or classism or heterosexism or sexism or any other oppression, it may stir up memories of things you read, or movies you saw, but that doesn’t mean that those are fit responses; the other is talking about their life, and now is not the time for anecdotes about movies, but for listening. Likewise, it might be painful to hear how we harm animals by not being vegan, but shouldn’t we at least listen to the voices of those we’re harming (via their proxies and spokespeople, those humans who can speak in words we can understand, who seem to have animals’ interests in mind)?

If you’re an activist, my guess is you’d like to be listened to. We have to be the change we want to see, so we need to work on our own listening.

Anyway, I can’t recommend these programs highly enough — and there happens to be a Listening Workshop SATURDAY, April 13th, 9am-12:30pm (they ask folks to please be 5 minutes early).

It will be held at the Ithaca Community Childcare Center (IC3), which is a really cool building at 579 Warren Road Ithaca, NY 14850 between the medical campus and Boces on Warren Road. Please bring snacks/beverages, and register at: www.thelisteningworkshop.com. It is 100% free.